A Little Respect & Forgiveness for Your Parents

Dear Guys,

I've been so crazily occupied recently, I haven't really got the time to update the blog. =.="
Nonetheless, I have been wanting to speak to you guys about the above topic which I've been sitting on for sometime. After counselling the guy with regards to the above subject, I figured that there may be many others out there who are likely to be facing similar situations at home. Hence, I thought perhaps reading alittle "self-help" will do all of us some good. (Yes, including me.)

So yes, if you have just another 3-5 minutes to spare, please read the article below. Yes, please do. Otherwise, whichever the case, please... have a little respect and forgiveness for your parents.

RULE 70 ...

This one may or may not affect you.

Personally, as I am now technically an orphan, it shouldn't affect me. But it does. Big time.
I was brought up with 2 major dysfunctional attributes. A missing father and a difficult mother. I have siblings with the same background. We have all handled it differently.

I found it easier to come to terms with my mother once I too had children and could see what a difficult job it is. I could then see that some people are intuitively, naturally good at it. And some people are, to be brutally frank, utterly useless at it.

My mother fell into the latter category. Was that her fault? No. Should I blame her? No. Can I forgive her? There is nothing to forgive. She embarked on a life path for which she was ill-equipped, received no help, was lacking in any skill and found extremely limiting and difficult. Result? She treated her children appallingly and we probably all need therapy. Or forgiveness and respect. Why should she be blamed for doing a difficult job badly? Hey, there are lots of areas in our lives where we aren't very efficient or skilled or even enthusiastic.

Your parents do the best they can.

And that might not be good enough for you but it is still the best they could do. They can't be blamed if they weren't very good at it. We can't all be fabulous parents.

And the absent father? That's ok too. We all make choices that others can judge as bad or unforgivable or just plain selfish and wrong. But we aren't there. We don't know what weaknesses people have or what drives them. Or indeed what is even going through their head. We can't judge until we too have to make the same choice. And even then if we choose a different way, then that's fine. But we still can't judge or blame.

So, for the fact they brought you into the world, have a little respect and forgiveness. If they did a good job, then tell them. If you love them, then tell them. And if they were appallingly at parenting, then forgive them and move on.

As offspring you do have a duty to be respectful. You have a responsibility to treat them kindly and be more than they are by being forgiving and non-judgemental.

You can rise above your upbringing.

Rules of Life by
Richard Templar

A penny for your thoughts... ;)

Have a lovely weekend with your family....
;) Mrs Melissa Lim